You love your children. You love your husband. Your love your wife. You love your family. You love your friends. You love your job.
You love……. But you have to love yourself. In order to properly love others, you must love yourself first. This post is about Loving you. Learning to love yourself after Domestic Violence. Help through all the stages beginning with self, and your children.
I am speaking from experience. The Beginning…
I was living in an abusive relationship for years. You keep trying to fix the relationship, not realizing that you can’t fix, what’s not your problem. The Problem…Because my ex-husband wasn’t fulfilling the role of man, he started using and abusing alcohol and drugs regularly. When under the influence of alcohol and drugs he became a monster. The Result…The marriage affected me, my children and my immediate family. Thank God for family, friends and agencies that help women and children living with domestic violence.
Now that I am free, I am able to see, think, and meditate on me. I realized when you love yourself, you wouldn’t deal or put up with certain things. When someone really love you:
1. They will not hit, kick or punch you.
2. Their words will not hurt to your core.
3. They would think of you because they do something wrong.
4. They would listen to you.
5. They would respect your feelings.
6. They would build you up.
7. They would not lie to you.
8. They would correct you with Love.
I had to learn how to continue to love and forgive my abusive ex-husband. My next post will be on forgiveness.