Forgiveness

Love“Can you do anything Right?” I just stood not moving, knowing I was doing my best.  God taught me to love with a pure heart. It’s hard to forgive the person that you trusted with your heart, love and life. You thought they love you the most because of their words. The betrayal. That person abused you for years.  The one person that you thought loved you, but they’re putting you down.  Telling you that you can’t do anything right. Called you out your name, and blamed you for their faults and mistakes.

When your spouse is hurting you they’re hurting themselves, because you are One.  But you must forgive. You have to learn how to deal with life’s hard knocks. We can do it, with hard work and determination. Forgiveness is for you. Us. Your life will truly change if you forgive.

The Process…Think about it?

We must find the love, the courage to forgive them. When you forgive them, only to free yourself. When you forgive them it is not only pleasing to God but it will be pleasing to you as well.  We must live our life to do good and that same goodness will one day come back to us.  Don’t worry it will find you.

It’s also wise to forgive when you have children together. Children love unconditional, with that being said your children will love the abuser anyway.  Please never talk bad about the other person.  Your children will find out in other ways.

What happens…..When you forgive:
1. You free yourself
2. You don’t feel anger or hate when someone bring up their name.
3. The thought of them, don’t mess you up inside.

4.Effect your day.
5. When you can stand to face them and be great.
6. Hear their voice. Remember what happen without the pain.

7.  You feel love and then you want to continue to share that love.

8.  You tell others, so they can be feel to love too.  After all, sharing is caring!

Victory
You must forgive everyone that hurt you. When you’re able to forgive, that’s when you’re healing process begins. Once your start you’re healing process, yes, it will hurt at first. Each day will get better and better.

Then you will grow and discover the love and beauty within you. Like a beautiful butterfly, blossoming flower, or praise dancing or Like a boy becoming a man.

I telling you this process because I lived with my abuser so many years and I have forgiven him and myself.  Forgiveness is so beautiful and its a gift you give yourself.  Forgiveness is Victory

Define what is forgiveness? Forgive, forgiveness is to give up resentment of or claim to requital for an insult. Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Please read what the Bible say about Forgiveness in a Biblical article.

Forgiveness is letting go of hurt and pain.

Thanks for reading and come again.

Bless,

Denise

Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt

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Part 2 of Forgiveness Introducing my Guest Blogger

A couple weeks ago we talked about Forgiveness. My guest blogger is Vivian.  I interviewed Vivian on the steps of forgiveness she’s taken.  Bringing Part 2 of Forgiveness

Vivian’s word of wisdom on Forgiveness. Vivian’s speaking from experience, while growing up she had to endure betrayal from people that supposed to love her.

Learning to forgive and let go of the past. The past doesn’t mean last year, it could be last week, or even yesterday.

Step 1
Give your life to Jesus Christ and have Relationship with God
The first thing, realize the Love of God. John 3:16
The first fruit of the Spirit is Love
Manifest that Love, and walk in the fruit of the Spirit.
First Fruit is the Spirit is Love, Joy, Peace, Long-Suffering, Goodness, Kindness, Faithfulness, Meekness and Self-Control.

Step 2
Read Psalms 23 Daily That I may see God face in the scriptures

Step 3
Believe

Step 4

If you never forgive, how can you go or move forward?

Think of this: “If you say I forgive you butI will never forget.” Then if you are always bring it up then you’re still in bondage to it. Meaning you haven’t forgiven.

When you truly forgive…
True forgiven comes through the Grace of God because God takes the hurt and pain out of it. God gives you his Beauty for our ashes.

Quote
I can forgive but It can’t forget, its only another way of saying I will not forgive. A Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note, torn in two and burned up, so that it can never be shown against the person.
Henry Ward Beecher

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Best,

Denise

It’s all about Love including an article “A Specific Purpose for your Life”

Hi Everyone, It’s truly all about Love.

Love is so good that we can talk about it and share it again, again and again.  Love is an Action word meaning you have to do something.

In God’s Word  read St. John 15:12  “This is my commandment.  That ye love one another, as I have loved you.”

By God making it a commandment,  tells me that Love is the Key of Life.   Sharing Love is our main purpose in Life.

God is Love  I know we shared about love, forgiveness, caring already.  But we can’t get enough Love.

It’s so important that we love one another, even our enemies.  Please forgive your enemies and all the people that hurt you.   And the people you may have hurt.  You can’t move on with your life from carrying burdens and fear.

I believe that’s why domestic violence is still the top three in the world for killing. So many People suffering from and living in domestic violence. Turn to drugs, alcohol, meaningless sex, abuse and other things that aren’t good for you. Trying to fill a void because something is missing in your life.  When you refuse to Love yourself and others that’s what happens.  God is the only one that can fill that void.

When you’re young you see a lot of things that maybe you shouldn’t have.  Those things affect you whether good or bad.  It’s our responsibility to Love our children enough to protect them from hurt, harm and danger.  If you love there’s no fear.

Again, It’s all about Love.  Please forgive yourself and others.  Free yourself.  Because God knows everything, ask God and you will be forgiven. God has a Specific Purpose for your Life.

I grew up in an Abusive family life.  I dealt with Abuse then married an Abuser. God did save me because I let Him into my life.  God loves me unconditional.  And I love myself so I am seeking and demanding better things for my life.  Love is the key to breaking the cycle of abuse, drug addiction, alcoholism…….The list goes on and on.    This article is for everyone that need Jesus, direction and getting on the right track. Written in a format that is easy to understand.  A guide to finding your purpose in your life.  Please read this article”A Specific Purpose for your Life”  It helped me and I know it will help you too.

Thank you for reading and please leave a message.  I look forward to hearing from you,

Denise

Faith from the Inside Out

Hi Family and Friends,

“Faith from the Inside Out” is a screenplay 2nd part of my book “Love Doesn’t have to Hurt”   With prayer I am developing and writing for families living with or surviving domestic violence.   “Faith from the Inside Out” purpose is to inspire,  change lives for a better you.  It’s about a series of life challenges designed for families, especially children.  It will be written,  Illustrated and easy to understand teaching about Faith, Love and Forgiveness.  It will satisfy curiosity and  promote growth  shown with vivid colors, drawing, coloring and reading.  Through the process learning without Faith ~ to ~ learning with Faith, Love and Forgiveness how it will work in your life.  Please look out for my new book series, that I have the pleasure and opportunity to share with you.  Please checkout this link from my Pastor Creflo Dollar

http://www.worldchangers.org/Monthly-ObeyFaith.aspx

the best,

Denise

Happy New Year! New Beginnings

We made it!

Let’s go into the New Year with a renewed Mind.  Its all about forgiveness.  Please ask God to help you forgive your abuser, so you will be free to feel love, have peace and happiness.

If you can talk about a painful experience that you had and not feel anger, then you have been healed through God’s Grace and Mercy.

Read Genesis 32:31, 32

I am writing a book, Love Doesn’t have to Hurt.  I promise to keep you posted.

Happy New Year!

Thinking of You

Thinking of You

Thinking of you is like a cool breeze on a Summer day thanks for keeping me safe

Summer days warms the soul and makes you look forward to another day thanks to you I have another day

Another day promised by God

God is my everything and I thank God for sharing you with me

With Me and You there is true Love, Family, Friendship, and Warmth thinking of You.

Happy Birthday, Nicky and Ramon (twins)

Loving You

Love

You love your children. You love your husband. Your love your wife. You love your family. You love your friends. You love your job.
You love……. But you have to love yourself. In order to properly love others, you must love yourself first. This post is about Loving you. Learning to love yourself after Domestic Violence.  Help through all the stages beginning with self, and your children.

I am speaking from experience. The Beginning
I was living in an abusive relationship for years. You keep trying to fix the relationship, not realizing that you can’t fix, what’s not your problem. The Problem…Because my ex-husband wasn’t fulfilling the role of man, he started using and abusing alcohol and drugs regularly. When under the influence of alcohol and drugs he became a monster. The Result…The marriage affected me, my children and my immediate family. Thank God for family, friends and agencies that help women and children living with domestic violence.

Now that I am free, I am able to see, think, and meditate on me. I realized when you love yourself, you wouldn’t deal or put up with certain things. When someone really love you:
1. They will not hit, kick or punch you.
2. Their words will not hurt to your core.
3. They would think of you because they do something wrong.
4. They would listen to you.
5. They would respect your feelings.
6. They would build you up.
7. They would not lie to you.
8. They would correct you with Love.

I had to learn how to continue to love and forgive my abusive ex-husband. My next post will be on forgiveness.