This homemade body and face scrub smells sooooooooo amazing! I literally used a few simple ingredients I already had around the house including sweet orange essential oil and zest from my kid’s oranges. This scrub leave my body feeling refreshed and well moisturized so it’s perfect for moms on-the-go. Grape seed oil has tons of benefits for the skin so it’s a win, it’s one of the best (if not best) oils for the skin. You can swap for Coconut, Or Avocado oil. Go with how you feel!
These make perfect gifts for friends. It saves you money, and it’s natural! Use body scrubs once a week or whenever you need a refresher!
Hello, How many of us are still living by our emotions? In God’s unchanging Word, it is wise not to live by our emotions.
Our emotions will guide us in the wrong direction. Emotions change! Domestic violence and abuse affects our emotions instead of what we see. Believe in what you see your abuser do and say. It will lead you to safety.
God wants us to be stable in all our ways. Domestic violence and abuse is not stable. It’s like living with two completely different people.
Only you know when enough is enough. You do deserve the best of what life can offer you. Key point, don’t follow your feelings or emotions, but focus on the facts. The Principle. Take care.
If you experienced domestic violence or abuse, it’s very important to practice self-care of our bodies physically, emotionally, and mentally.
What is Self-Care? Self-care equal pamper yourself! Trust! Believe in you. You deserve to feel better, stronger, and more alive. When you practice self-care you rest and recharge makes your better, stronger and more alive.
Empowerment is self-care builds self-esteem, self-worth, and make your own decisions.
Things to make your life easier, and healthier:
1. Journal or List all your personal strengths and reflect on them often. Take time to prioritize your day.
2. List all the things you are grateful for and reasons why. Focus on the positive! Laugh. Smile often.
3. No one is perfect, so let that go.
4. Exercise 10 to 30 minutes daily.
5. Practice praying, meditation and breathing techniques.
6. Get enough sleep.
7. Drink plenty of water.
8. Remove people that are no good for you. Look for people you admire, or who can be your role model, or mentor.
9. Organize one room at a time.
10.Believe in yourself, you deserve it!
11. Listen to music.
12. Call a trusted friend or family member.
13. Sit on the porch. Enjoy fresh air and sunlight.
14. Take a shower using some homemade sugar scrubs.
15. Schedule a Spa night at home (facial, pedicure, and/or manicure)
16. Color, draw, write, or read.
17. Create your own vision board from magazines and writings.
18. Spend time alone.
19. Grab a glass of wine, tea, or coffee and sip in the tub. Be safe and responsible.
Remember you are worth it. Enjoy!
Come back next week for my breathing technique video.
When we forgive ourselves and/ or the person that hurt us, remember that it is for us! We need forgiveness for healing. You ask “how do you know if you need healing?” You are always mad, angry or unpleasant. When you hurt, it makes you sad, then it turns to anger. After a while it builds into depression.
The wrong time to make life decisions is when you are hurt or angry.
A lot of times, when we are hurt, we can’t hear from God or trusted family and friends. It is usually because we lost our faith and refuse to trust anyone.
If you want to feel better and be your best self forgive and start your healing process. Trust God! Renew your mind, body and soul. Remember you deserve it. Healing – Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt!
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Listen…no judgement. I’m writing from experience. Life has taught me to love myself. If I don’t love me, or value me no one else will. No one else will treat me better than I treat myself. Make time for you each day. No phones, computers or interruptions. Find a quiet space and focus on you.
I’m a child of the most high, so I must stand on that truth!
It all starts with me. Taking the best care I can of me. If that means praying, speaking affirmations, exercising, eating a balanced meal and practicing breathing techniques then DO IT! . I promise that you will not be disappointed.
When you are at your best self no one can put you down by telling lies to lower your self worth. That’s what abusers do. They tell lies to make you think you are crazy. You have to change the very thing that makes you special.
Our creator made us unique and special, no two people are alike. Are we perfect? No. No one is, but that’s okay.
When I love someone, I love all of them, flaws too. Is it wrong to want the same thing? No!
Love you and wait patiently until the right person comes along.
“Love Doesn’t Have To Hurt”
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Domestic violence is very serious, it can affect men, women and children. Usually men are the abusers, but men can also be abused. When children witness domestic violence, that’s trauma. Children are at a greater risk of having emotional, behavior issues, be sexually abused and have learning problems.
You can recover, but it will take hard work on your part. And you are going to have to want it. You should talk with God, a trusted family member, friend or counselor. God is the true healer. So please don’t leave Him out of your recovery.
It will affect you mentally and physically. We’re not the same and things don’t affect everyone in the same way. When you are experiencing or living with domestic violence you don’t feel safe or secure most of the time, and it causes you to have trouble sleeping and dealing with life. Some days you don’t want to get out of bed to face the day. You start isolating yourself from family and friends. Your behavior changes at work or school. You begin to lose trust and faith in people. It causes you to feel helpless and hopeless because of the shame and guilt. But it is not your fault. It’s your abuser that has the problem and needs help. But they have to want to change.
I know, because I witnessed domestic violence as a child growing up, then I married a man, that I though loved me. Then again, I guess he did love me, but he had a problem and he abused me for many, many years. I stayed, because I didn’t know any better at first, then over time, I thought I could change him. I thought I could be enough for him to want to change. That didn’t happen.
Now, I live to help others by sharing my story.
So why is it not recognized or why is it overlooked as a serious crime, especially if its emotional abuse vs physical abuse? I believe physical, emotional and sexual abuse are equally serious crimes and both of these problems should be addressed. Most cases involve men hitting, punching, threatening and emotionally abusing women. But men can get abused too. It also affects children growing up seeing and hearing their parents fight and witnessing the abuse.
Abuse kills your spirit, causes depression and low self-esteem.
The Cycle of Abuse goes in a circle like this: The abuse occurs. He then starts to feel guilty and then he makes excuses. The fantasy begins – he gives you flowers, candy, sweet talks you and then wants to make love with you. Then the setup – the abuse starts again!
Verbal, physical and emotional abuse done to your spouse or partner is done to dominate and control. There are also more ways to abuse the other person – like financial abuse, spiritual abuse, abusing a pet and sexual abuse.
The first step is recognizing the abuse. Once you realize you are being abused decide if you are going to leave or stay in the relationship. Please protect yourself. Utilize people, agencies and resources that are out there to help. If you decide you want to get an order of protection – go to your local courthouse. The service is free for domestic violence cases. You have to fill out the paperwork and you have to be very detailed and honest. There are also clerks in the office to answer questions. After you turn in your paperwork, a judge will look over them and may need to speak with you. At that time you may be granted a temporary protection order and you will get four copies. One copy for yourself, the police department, the courts and then your abuser will be served. If you have a picture of him and describe him it will make it easier for him to be located and served. You will then be given a court date if all of the facts go in your favor you should receive a permanent Oder of Protection. Be safe – Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt!