You are in control of your destiny. Choose, not to let your current situation, stop you from doing what’s best for you. Always believe in yourself!
Yes, it will get tough, or hard. But, never give up. We all can believe and learn how to do something that’s hard or tough. Think about ways to achieve by finding a way, even if you ask for help. I am a problem solver.
Asking for help is okay. That’s even a smart thing to do. I am smart!
I am confident.
My appearance is important, but my self-worth and abilities is even greater. I love me.
Bring in the New Year happy and whole! Let go and let God.
Life is too short to hang on to things that we can’t change.
People are dying every day. So let’s focus on the LOVE and FORGIVENESS.
God taught me to love with a pure heart. It didn’t happened over night. I had to process my emotions and feelings by writing them down.
Writing down the pain of the person that you trusted with your heart, love and apart of your life. With God we can forgive them.
I am willing to forgive. You know forgiveness is for ME.
Think about it. As long as you hate or hang on to unforgiveness. It’s like a prison for you. Meaning your happiness and joy stop.
The Process…Think about it?
We must find the love, the courage to forgive them. When you forgive them, only to free yourself. When you forgive them it is not only pleasing to God but it will be pleasing to you as well. We must live our life to do good and that same goodness will one day come back to us. Don’t worry it will find you.
It’s also wise to forgive when you have children together. Children love unconditional, with that being said your children will love the abuser anyway. Please never talk bad about the other person. Your children will find out in other ways.
What happens…..When you forgive: 1. You free yourself 2. You don’t feel anger or hate when someone bring up their name. 3. The thought of them, don’t mess you up inside.
4.Effect your day. 5. When you can stand to face them and be great. 6. Hear their voice. Remember what happen without the pain.
7. You feel love and then you want to continue to share that love.
8. You tell others, so they can be feel to love too. After all, sharing is caring!
You must forgive everyone that hurt you. When you’re able to forgive, that’s when you’re healing process begins. Once your start you’re healing process, yes, it will hurt at first. Each day will get better and better.
Then you will grow and discover the love and beauty within you. Like a beautiful butterfly, blossoming flower, or praise dancing or Like a boy becoming a man.
I telling you this process because I lived with my abuser so many years and I have forgiven him and myself. Forgiveness is so beautiful and its a gift you give yourself. Forgiveness is Victory
Define what is forgiveness? Forgive, forgiveness is to give up resentment of or claim to requital for an insult. Merriam-Webster Dictionary
Please read what the Bible say about Forgiveness in a Biblical article.
Take time to love yourself. Get to know who you are.
Your likes and dislikes.
Your dreams and goals by journaling. Write daily and look for patterns.
Look in your mirror and say,”I love you.”
I also love fresh flowers, candles, pictures, and writing.
*Loving yourself is the first step. I smile all the time. Be confident that you are special and unique no matter what.You can do it! Try Daily Affirmation that say I accept me, be positive, grateful, and encouraging.
*I make sugar scrubs, candles, and jewelry that I use somethings to give back to others.
*Get enough sleep, rest, and daily devotions. That includes walking outside, nature, stretching, and yoga. Balance with plenty of water and healthy foods.
*Manage your stress by facing it. Focus on forgiveness and kindness.
*Set boundaries and communicate. Ask for help when you need it.
*Spend quality time with God, reading, and journal. Enjoy your family, friends, and hobbies.
*Spend time alone to renew your mind, body, and soul. Make changes for the better.
*Create an organized and healthy lifestyle.
*Never stop learning.
*Create a positive work space.
Please remember to love and peace. Feel free to comment and share.
Denise, a Grace girl for life!
PS. Don’t forget to take a bubble bath.
Soon to be published books for prevention or support of domestic violence and abuse.
I Love ME children book with a journal.
I Love ME from Pieces Made Whole teen book with journal and workbook
Please check it out, and thanks for visiting, reading, and leave a comment.
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It’s truly all about Love. It’s important to love yourself, but first do you know who you are?
Who Am I
The best ways to find your true self is to journal. Keep a notepad or writing book with you at all times to write down your thoughts, feelings and events that happened to you.
Think about Who you are? Write whatever comes to mind for 30 days. Then, think about what you want to do with your life? Journal for 30 days.
Journal about your strengths, goals, any other questions that will help you know yourself. Focus on each questions one at a time for 30 days. By the time you are done. You should have a very good idea who you are and what you want to do and how to achieve it.
When you know who you are, you love yourself better. When you love yourself, you know your worth. That leads to you not letting people treat you in abusive ways.
I didn’t know my worth because of domestic violence and abuse.
It’s so important that we love one another, even our enemies. Please forgive your enemies and all the people that hurt you. And the people you may have hurt. You can’t move on with your life from carrying burdens and regrets.
I know the importance of love and my worth. Now, I want to share with you.
Become whole means feeling secure, confidence, and peace from within.
Today, I can say that I am Whole. We can overcome any thing we put our minds to, including domestic violence and emotional abuse. It takes Determination. I did it! Now I am safe, having joy and peace.
Believe me it didn’t happen overnight. Healing physical scars was one thing, but healing emotional scars took a lot longer.
I cannot promise the road to overcoming abuse will be easy or the process time will be short but with support, knowledge and determination you can do it too. What I can promise, is that you can do it if you try.
If it never get dealt with, then the cycle of abuse continues. Only when the cycle of abuse is broken, ended then healing comes.
God is the true Healer. You are Awesome, amazing and worth it. So take control of your life.
Tips that work:
Listen-practice active listening when someone shares their story of abuse with you.
Repeat back what you think you heard them say to you without judgement.
Focus on supporting and have love for them because abuse is difficult and confusing.
Encourage them to be around positive family and friends.
Pick up a book, hobby, or class.
Remember trouble don’t last always, joy does come in the morning.
That’s empowerment. And remember to pass love. knowledge, and encouragement on to someone else.
All the best,
Grace girl, Denise M. Hardnett
“Love Doesn’t Have To Hurt”
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