What Can We Do to Overcome Abuse

Hello Online Family and Friends,

We can overcome any thing we put our minds to, especially domestic violence and abuse.  Determination.  I did!  Now I am safe, I have joy and happiness.  I have forgiven my abusers and I have forgiven my seIf. I lived with my abuser for 15 years.  Because I moved too fast and lacked knowledge and support I spent another seven years in an abusive relationship. I cannot promise the road to overcoming abuse will be easy or the process time will be short but with support, knowledge and determination you can do it too.  What I can promise, is that you can do it.  We have to learn to love and trust ourselves again.  At a point in our lives we lost the love and trust,  and in turn, opened the door to the abuse.  Please understand that you did not deserve it.  People that abuse others learned that by watching others that abused.  They saw it as a way of control.  Somebody hurt them, so they hurt others.  If it never got dealt with, then the cycle of abuse continues.  Only when the cycle of abuse is broken, healing comes.  We thought we were in love and didn’t know the warning signs of abuse.  Once you realize you are in an abusive relationship seek help and support to plan and make a way of escape for you and your children.  Knowledge is power!   Counseling will help with you to  build and rebuild relationships.  The first step is to admit you are loved by God.  God is the true Healer.  You are Awesome, amazing and worth it and in control of your life.   We are the only one that can make decisions for ourselves and our children.  We have the power to keep ourselves and children safe and not worry about the next time. Live in a healthy environment because we know that we deserve the best.  God only wants the best for his Children and He will never leave or forsake us.  God’s word is the truth and we can depend on Him.  When you are free from your abuser, you will begin to learn how to live without them.  You begin to start your life anew.  Start walking, sleeping and eating the right way.  Do things that you use to do, that made you happy, like reading, writing, participating in or watching sporting events, just to name a few.  Now that you know, that you know, pass it on to others in need. The lesson is to keep control and watch out and know the warning signs to avoid. You will have a great relationship when the time is right.  And remember to pass love and encouragement on to someone else.

All the best,

Denise Hardnett

“Love Doesn’t Have To Hurt”

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