Grace Girls Bill of Rights for Survivors

I am me and I have a right to be ME.

I am a queen of the most high.

I have the right to feel safe and be safe at all times.

I have the right to feel love and be respected.

I am not perfect but deserve to be treated right.

I have the right to go and see who I want to see without fear.

I have the right to ask questions, make decisions that affect me.

I am my own person, with my own goals and needs.

Focus on the Possibilities

Good morning, today is a new day.  Let’s talk about using the things that has hurt you or your failures to inspire your greatness.

Most of us has a story. Turn your negative into a positive by helping someone else.

I encourage you to learn from your life experiences and turn a negative into a positive to work toward growth and development to better your life.

Remember your Failures and your Success equals Growth.

Pressure makes rubies and diamonds, so Grace Girls be empower to start turning a negative situation into positive possibilities.  

Relax and focus on your passion. Think about what you can do with thinking about it?

Find your purpose.

After you find your purpose set goals. For example, I mentor women dealing with domestic violence and abuse. I work at a domestic violence shelter. I am a believer and I love what I do.

Empowering Grace Girls and my goal is to open a Grace Girls home. The vision to Make a Difference.

My first step is to set daily, weekly, and monthly goals. I will work on my plan everyday. Planning is the most important step and God will do the rest. If I can write it out, I can achieve it.

Always remember to make a plan. Thanks for reading and come again.

Comments are always welcome.

blessings,

Denise

Keys of a Healthy Relationship

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A healthy relationship starts with each person having a personal relationship with God. Beginning with prayer time, reading the Word, and worship.

A good relationship has balance 100 percent on both sides.  You complete each other. You complement each other.

 You have respect, loyalty, honesty, and believe in one another.  You’re not afraid to share your deepest thoughts or feelings.  You feel safe to share good or bad and not feel threatened.

You know each other most proudest and embarrassing moments.

Know each other dreams, goals, wishes and desires.

Share decision making, children and household chores and budget.

You both are learning, changing and growing together.

Knowing their favorite things like.

Best friends

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Tips

1.Kiss and hug everyday

2.Never go to bed mad or angry

3. Leave note in different places for each other to find.

4. Make up a love language only you two know.

5. Talk about the good memories.

6. Have fun with each other.

7. Touch

Thanks for reading and share.  Don’t forget to leave a comment.

Blessings,

Denise

Sweet Orange Zest Scrub

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This homemade body and face scrub smells sooooooooo amazing! I literally used a few simple ingredients I already had around the house including sweet orange essential oil and zest from my kid’s oranges. This scrub leave my body feeling refreshed and well moisturized so it’s perfect for moms on-the-go. Grape seed oil has tons of benefits for the skin so it’s a win, it’s one of the best (if not best) oils for the skin. You can swap for Coconut, Or Avocado oil. Go with how you feel!

These make perfect gifts for friends. It saves you money, and it’s natural! Use body scrubs once a week or whenever you need a refresher!

Ingredients:

  • 1 1/2 Pink Himalayan salt
  • 1/2 grape seed oil
  • 20 drops sweet orange essential oil
  • 1 tsp Orange Zest (add more for smell)

Mix well.

Show me your results below!

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Believe

love-11Hello,   How many of us are still living by our emotions?  In God’s unchanging Word, it is wise not to live by our emotions.

Our emotions will guide us in the wrong direction.  Emotions change! Domestic violence and abuse affects our emotions instead of what we see. Believe in what you see your abuser do and say.  It will lead you to safety.

God wants us to be stable in all our ways. Domestic violence and abuse is not stable. It’s like living with two completely different people.

believeOnly you know when enough is enough.  You do deserve the best of what life can offer you. Key point, don’t follow your feelings or emotions, but focus on the facts. The Principle. Take care.

Peace and blessings,

Denise

Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt

Forgiveness

Love“Can you do anything Right?” I just stood not moving, knowing I was doing my best.  God taught me to love with a pure heart. It’s hard to forgive the person that you trusted with your heart, love and life. You thought they love you the most because of their words. The betrayal. That person abused you for years.  The one person that you thought loved you, but they’re putting you down.  Telling you that you can’t do anything right. Called you out your name, and blamed you for their faults and mistakes.

When your spouse is hurting you they’re hurting themselves, because you are One.  But you must forgive. You have to learn how to deal with life’s hard knocks. We can do it, with hard work and determination. Forgiveness is for you. Us. Your life will truly change if you forgive.

The Process…Think about it?

We must find the love, the courage to forgive them. When you forgive them, only to free yourself. When you forgive them it is not only pleasing to God but it will be pleasing to you as well.  We must live our life to do good and that same goodness will one day come back to us.  Don’t worry it will find you.

It’s also wise to forgive when you have children together. Children love unconditional, with that being said your children will love the abuser anyway.  Please never talk bad about the other person.  Your children will find out in other ways.

What happens…..When you forgive:
1. You free yourself
2. You don’t feel anger or hate when someone bring up their name.
3. The thought of them, don’t mess you up inside.

4.Effect your day.
5. When you can stand to face them and be great.
6. Hear their voice. Remember what happen without the pain.

7.  You feel love and then you want to continue to share that love.

8.  You tell others, so they can be feel to love too.  After all, sharing is caring!

Victory
You must forgive everyone that hurt you. When you’re able to forgive, that’s when you’re healing process begins. Once your start you’re healing process, yes, it will hurt at first. Each day will get better and better.

Then you will grow and discover the love and beauty within you. Like a beautiful butterfly, blossoming flower, or praise dancing or Like a boy becoming a man.

I telling you this process because I lived with my abuser so many years and I have forgiven him and myself.  Forgiveness is so beautiful and its a gift you give yourself.  Forgiveness is Victory

Define what is forgiveness? Forgive, forgiveness is to give up resentment of or claim to requital for an insult. Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Please read what the Bible say about Forgiveness in a Biblical article.

Forgiveness is letting go of hurt and pain.

Thanks for reading and come again.

Bless,

Denise

Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt

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Self-Care

Good morning,

If you experienced domestic violence or abuse, it’s very important to practice self-care of our bodies physically, emotionally, and mentally.

What is Self-Care? Self-care equal pamper yourself! Trust! Believe in you. You deserve to feel better, stronger, and more alive. When you practice self-care you rest and recharge makes your better, stronger and more alive.

Empowerment is self-care builds self-esteem, self-worth, and make your own decisions.

Things to make your life easier, and healthier:

1. Journal or List all your personal strengths and reflect on them often. Take time to prioritize your day.

2. List all the things you are grateful for and reasons why. Focus on the positive! Laugh. Smile often.

3. No one is perfect, so let that go.

4. Exercise 10 to 30 minutes daily.

5. Practice praying, meditation and breathing techniques.

6. Get enough sleep.

7. Drink plenty of water.

8. Remove people that are no good for you. Look for people you admire, or who can be your role model, or mentor.

9. Organize one room at a time.

10.Believe in yourself, you deserve it!

11. Listen to music.

12. Call a trusted friend or family member.

13. Sit on the porch. Enjoy fresh air and sunlight.

14. Take a shower using some homemade sugar scrubs.

15. Schedule a Spa night at home (facial, pedicure, and/or manicure)

16. Color, draw, write, or read.

17. Create your own vision board from magazines and writings.

18. Spend time alone.

19. Grab a glass of wine, tea, or coffee and sip in the tub. Be safe and responsible.

Remember you are worth it. Enjoy!

Come back next week for my breathing technique video.

Please leave a comment and like.

Best,

Denise Hardnett

“Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt”

I Love ME From Pieces Made Whole

Hi Everyone,

“I Love ME from Pieces Made Whole” children’s book ages 6 to 11 years old. The book promotes self-worth, reflections, hope, forgiveness and  to heal from domestic violence and abuse.  Published date April 2020.

Please post comments, about the book cover! What do you think?

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Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt Appreciate Life

I don’t know your story, but I’m going to share my story with you.

Your abuser is not going to change, unless he wants too.  Domestic violence is power and control over their initiate partner.

It’s my passion to educate little girls, teens and women about domestic violence and abuse to discuss keys to a healthy relationship.

To talk about your hurt and pain is freeing. First step to heal the little girl inside of you.  Remember all things are possible through Jesus Christ! The sky is the limit.  

We have to model positive words, deeds, and actions to show girls they are worthy.  To let them know they are to be treated with love and respect. 

I am so thankful and blessed!  I can share hope of healing from domestic violence and together we can end domestic violence.

My book “Love Doesn’t have to Hurt”  is an inspirational guide for women dealing with the topic of domestic violence and abuse.  The release date is scheduled for October 2020.

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Love Yourself

It is so important to LOVE YOURSELF!  Guess what, you are beautiful loving and kind!  You are not perfect, and that’s okay because nobody is.  I’m smiling at you.

It’s so hard after leaving an abusive spouse because we love them so much and we believe in them.  We think about the future and the thought of growing old with them.  

Speaking of your future – In reality, we really can’t have a future with  someone who is so selfish who plans to abuse us only because we are nice, caring, nurturing and empathetic.

He wined and dined us.  Used all the right words and we fell in love.  After that the games began.

Remember all the silent treatment.  Up and down mood swings.  All the times you thought you was going crazy.  You weren’t going crazy because, it was him who was playing games with you. 

All the times you took him back.  All the promises to change.  All the abuse. He built you up only to destroy you by bringing  you down.

It’s time to drop him mentally and physically.  Get your healing on and start loving yourself.

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Loving you:

  1. Get a solid relationship with God.
  2. Tell yourself positive things.
  3. Pamper yourself
  4. Read a good book
  5. Acknowledge that you are worthy to be loved
  6. Trust your inner voice
  7. Do something everyday that you like
  8. Build yourself up!
  9. Ask for help if you need it.
  10. Utilize breathing techniques

I pray these things help you like they helped me.

Please comment and share.

Best,

Denise Hardnett

“Love Doesn’t Have To Hurt”